I’m a fairly high strung person. I also like things a certain way and expect everyone to pull their weight. I know I complain sometimes about the way things aren’t getting done at home.
The other thing you need to know is that I’m an extrovert – but an extrovert pretty close to the introvert line. I have strong introvert leanings. My dad is a huge introvert and the older he gets, the more introverted I notice he is. The older I get the more I see that in myself as well. I really do get my energy from other people and I process things by talking instead of thinking. But I so enjoy my alone time and definitely my quiet time.
So, with all that background, let me describe my week. My girlfriend and her husband have been gracious hosts. She has been a good friend for over 20 years. I stood up for her at their surprise wedding (only the bride, groom, minister, best man and I knew it was going to happen at a large family gathering). Her youngest daughter and my daughter were best friends in high school. So, you can see we have a lot of history.
She would be incredibly hard to live with though. She is a nag with her sweet husband. She expects everything done right now – and HER way!. I have felt sorry for him this week. One evening I felt like I was playing marriage counselor. She yelled at him and made him feel about as tall as a grasshopper. He made a few comments to me later when it was just he and I in the room. She apologized to me – not him about yelling. I’ve told her several times over the years that she doesn’t treat him very good. All she says is “he understands” and that they love each other.
Add in the fact that she is getting to be hard of hearing (and I suspect he may be a bit too) and you have a recipe for a loud household! They are both 65 years old so a little hearing loss is to be expected I think. Television (which I rarely even turn on at home) is always on – and LOUD!!!!! Then when they talk, they talk loudly to be heard over the roar of the TV. But even when TV isn’t on, she talks really loud.
As someone who revels in quiet, this has made for unnecessary chaos and stress. My ears hurt and I’m really ready to be home where it is quiet. I love them and their hospitality and we have had a lot of fun, but home is sounding so good right now. Maybe introverts are better off vacationing alone.