WHY?????

We all have friends like this I’m sure. They seem joined at the hip to their spouse. They have ONE Facebook account, joint email accounts. Really??? Age doesn’t seem to matter either. I know couples in their 30’s, 40’s and 50’s that do this.

I’m never sure which one is having a birthday on Facebook so I don’t comment. Not even sure which one is commenting or liking something. I kinda figure it is the woman on Pinterest, just because that is typically a girl thing.

I’ve never been one to “check in” at home. In fact when I’m traveling I call when I get to my destination and then he sees me when I get home. Okay, I may be at the other end of the extremes. And that may be yet another reason I’ve been divorced as many times as I have (three for those who are keeping track). But I have one friend who will call her husband a couple of times during an afternoon shopping trip. Not to ask if he needs anything…but just to check in.

I have another friend who doesn’t have her own email account. She does have her own Facebook though…more on that in a minute. Anyway, it isn’t that I’m emailing anything particularly private. It’s just the principle of it. Okay, so her Facebook. I’m pretty sure her husband looks at it and comments sometimes. And I KNOW it is him playing Words with Friends and not her.

Love has nothing to do with this. I’m convinced it is either a control issue or thinking a spouse isn’t smart enough to stand alone.

I go back to my original question…WHY???? Just because you are married doesn’t mean you have given up or lost your own identity.

Email accounts are free and so easy to set up. In fact, I’m encouraging one friend to set up a gmail or yahoo account just for her. She’s 50 years old for crying out loud. I hope I’m not being too rebellious or helping her be too rebellious. But really.

I just don’t understand. But, of course, I have all those divorces and these women do not. I also think I’m probably happier.